Ask Me Anything: Your Answers

Ashely asked: Are you a stay at home mom, now? Were you before? If not, what did you do for work?

I am a work at home mom! My DH owns a business, so when I met him and moved in with Kay I started working for the business. I handle all of our HR, bookkeeping, payroll, taxes, etc. I would work while Kay was in preschool/school. It has worked out nicely except it is very very easy to get behind because its so easy to put things off. I work as much as I can daily, which sometimes isn't much at all, others times a few hours a day. I am very lucky to have the best of both worlds!

Looking 4 # 3 asked: Was Kay's (biological) father ever involved in her life? Did you return to eating vegetarian or are you planning on going back to it? and What is the age difference between you and your hubby?

Kay's bio father was a part of her life, but only actively for the first year. After we split, it was like out of sight out of mind, which is sad. He still keeps contact, although it is very rarely and he has even gone 8 months without calling. She doesn't ask about him often, but when she does I answer her questions the best I can and if she ever wants to call (which is never) I let her. I don't want to ever stand in the way of her and her bio father, but I also want to protect her. It is a very hard situation for me and it weighs heavily on my mind at times. I am just so grateful that she has a great father figure in my husband. He is her dad!

I have not gone back completely veg yet, although I don't eat a lot of meat. I have been eating turkey lately, but I can go days and days without touching meat! I am a big vegetable eater, and that has always been my main staple. I was never a vegetarian because I didn't like meat, it was always an ethical issue for me. For now, when I do eat meat I make sure it is all organic/free range/hormone free/friendly meat and I encourage those of you who do eat meat to do the same :)

Me and my DH are 22 year apart, shocking I know. But it works! I have always dated men older than me, although this is by far the biggest age gap. He doesn't look his age at all and we are very happy!

Alyssa asked: Was it very difficult going through all the treatments when you had a child to take care of already? Were you on a roller coaster with emotions from the medication and hopes?

Yes, it was difficult at times. With all the Dr. visits I had a hard time finding people to babysit. And as you know..there are a LOT of appointments and most of them at only a day or two's notice. I even ended up having to bring her to a few (although I felt TERRIBLE about that) My advise, get a few people who you can call at a moments notice that you trust to watch your LO.

To answer your second question, YES! I was very emotional. Some days I would even question what I was doing, I would ask myself if I was making the right choice. I would say "I have a child who is healthy, should I just be grateful for what I have?" but ultimately I knew that a sibling could give her things I never could, and I desperately wanted another child. All the hormones did take a toll on me, it is a very intense process and can be stressful at times. Not to mention the let down after a cycle with treatments that resulted in a BFN, knowing it was all for nothing. Just keep your eye on the prize, a positive attitude (easier said than done with IF I know), keep open communication with your husband, and take it one day at a time!

Jamie asked: Did you go back to being a vegetarian once M was born?

See above

My New Life as a Borin asked: What does your tattoo stand for and when did you get it?

It means Friendship in Chinese. I got it with my BFF when I was 17.

Anonymous asked: I would like to know if you have some sort of system getting your baby to sleep for 6 to 8 hours a night?

I wish I had a better answer for you, but no, not really. Truth is that Miss M has been a great sleeper from the start (and she is formula fed). We do however roughly stick to the same routine everyday, which I believe is a HUGE help even at this age. She wakes from 6:30-8 every morning eats, we get changed for the day, we play and have tummy time, then she will sleep/eat every 4 hours or so through out the rest of the day. Then from 7- 10/11pm she is awake and we have a bath (if its bath night), and do quite play and hang out with Daddy. Although lately she has been fussy at night so I have been doing anything to try and soothe her. Once she has her last bottle at 9-10:30, she is out for the night or at least for 6-8 hours.

I realize this is not the norm. When Kay was born, we were up every 2 hours for the first few weeks. Then around 3-4 weeks (once she started on formula coincidentally) she started sleeping 5-6 hour stretches. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying in any way that formula is the answer, but fact is it keeps them fuller because it takes their bodies longer to digest so I think that's part of it. I am all for breast feeding, and tired desperately to BF Kay but it didn't work out. We went straight to bottle with Miss M because of my difficulties the first time around. But ultimately I really think Miss M just loves her sleep!!